Grief Counseling

The grieving process can be cruel. One of its insidious tactics is to whisper lies and shove doubts down the throats of its victims. It whispers “what if” into the ears of grieving caregivers after the death of their loved one. It twists love and dedication into guilt and self-doubt, and worse, self-blame. It’s an unforgiving, shrill voice that makes the caregiver question every choice, every missed moment and every subtle sign they might have overlooked. This inner turmoil can feel overwhelming, especially when you’ve poured so much of yourself into caring for a loved one. But before you let these thoughts consume you, it’s important to recognize them for what they are – a natural but painful part of the grieving process, not a reflection of your worth or the value of the care that you provided. Feelings Often Attached to the Grieving Process A lot of caregivers get immediately absorbed in this sticky web of self-blame after their loved one passes away. In an effort to make sense of the trauma that they are going through, they try to orient themselves and contextualize the situation by replaying the events leading up to the death of their loved one. During this part of the grieving process, many wonder if they missed some obvious sign that their loved one was at the end of their life. If you were the caregiver to someone who passed away and these thoughts are running through your mind, let me assure you that it is a common question attached to a common reaction, guilt coupled with feelings of inadequacy and regret. The occurrence of these feelings is most common in caregivers whose patients dealt with complex or progressive illnesses, as these types of long-term illnesses may show more subtle changes than those with [...]