Personal Development

Challenging Irrational Thinking Using Socratic Questioning

2025-03-06T07:12:22+00:00March 6th, 2025|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

A person who struggles with irrational thinking can become overwhelmed with thoughts that can interfere with everyday life. Cognitive therapy in Longview, Washington focuses on assisting individuals in changing their negative and irrational thought processes. Therapists at Longview Christian Counseling in Washington use cognitive restructuring techniques to help you remove unhealthy thoughts. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. – Philippians 4:8, NASB How does a therapist challenge irrational thinking? When a therapist guides you through a series of questions that challenge your thought it is termed cognitive restructuring. Cognitive therapy uses this to help you identify harmful and irrational thoughts. Restructuring your thoughts can help you develop coping strategies that create healthy reactions to situations. One popular technique is Socratic questioning. Socratic questioning stems from a process used by Socrates, a Greek philosopher. In this process, he questioned students in a way that encouraged them to evaluate the validity of the truth of their thoughts. Socratic questioning is used in cognitive therapy to help individuals reflect on their thoughts and whether those thoughts are valid. Using Socratic questioning, individuals can remove or change their thought process in an attempt to understand the truth of what they believe. It can help the person understand what they know versus what they believe. Some beliefs are based on irrational thoughts which can lead to anxiety and depression. The Process of Socratic Questions for Irrational Thinking Because thoughts are continually happening in our minds, we rarely understand each of them to their fullness. This means that we probably fail to address them as we should. When this happens, we can find ourselves [...]

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Practicing Active Listening in Communication

2025-02-27T08:54:21+00:00February 27th, 2025|Featured, Personal Development, Professional Development|

We know that a big part of interacting with others involves communication. Sometimes we forget that there are two aspects of communication. Speaking is the one that everyone seems to concentrate on when it comes to understanding better communication. But listening is also important in communication. If you are not actively listening to the conversation you may miss out on something important. Listening is a way to show respect to the other person in the conversation. My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. – James 1:19, NIV What Does Active Listening Mean?  The term active listening refers to being present in the conversation in which you are engaged. To be actively listening means you are fully invested in the conversation and you are willing to give it your full attention. It shows the other person you are interested in having a mutual conversation. Listening is not the same as hearing. When you hear you are not fully focused on the content or the person. When you listen you understand what the conversation is about. Types of Listening  Active listening can apply to all types of listening. There are five major types of listening that we use in our everyday lives. No matter what type of listening you are engaged in you must always have the right attitude, pay attention, and adjust to what is being said. Empathetic listening is when you listen to understand the emotions and reasoning of the story that the speaker is sharing. Comprehensive listening is listening to learn. Critical listening occurs when you are listening to form an opinion of what is being said. Appreciative listening is when you listen because you want to enjoy what is being said. [...]

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The Greatest Love of All: Jesus’ Blueprint for Relationships

2024-12-27T11:41:47+00:00December 27th, 2024|Featured, Personal Development, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

Much emphasis is placed on Biblical teaching about loving God and people, and rightly so. It is the pinnacle of the Christian faith by which others will know the believers who make up the Body of Christ (John 13:35). Furthermore, the love that we demonstrate will cause others to know God Himself. It is love alone, not fear or shame, that draws people to Jesus. In being magnetized to His lovingkindness, we find that Love is the most radical force we could ever encounter. God Himself is Love. By Him, everything visible has materialized by His spoken Word from the realm of the unseen (John 1:3; Colossians 1:16-17). The Love of God sparks and sustains relationships, underscoring our connection with others. Love is the foundation that builds community, as Jesus illustrated by engaging those who followed Him and believed. We who abide in Him learn to live sacrificially, sharpening one another, offering strength and support to live in vibrant interdependence as one diversified Body. Less than a half-century ago, an older song rebounded from obscurity, climbing its way into a hit popularized by a budding pop sensation.[1] In the remake, the songstress ascended the music charts, belting with boldness that, “learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” Jesus was the first to highlight the connection between loving God, ourselves, and our neighbors (Matthew 22:36-40). Long before these lyrics were set to music, Jesus knew that we would need to have a sense of how loved we are by God. We need this encouragement to follow His divine example to love and serve, even to the point of sacrifice. This song intersects with Scripture, illustrating how the Father’s Love activated in us allows us to respond to God, to serve Him and others well. Greater love has [...]

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Building Self-esteem, God’s Way

2024-10-25T08:19:39+00:00September 30th, 2024|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Self-esteem has been defined as the evaluation that a person makes of themself in comparison to some standard, or the way they have come to think of themselves habitually. While this has always been a concern for humans throughout history, in our current Western culture, building self-esteem seems to be an obsession. The advertising industry is fueled by taglines selling products to “make you look and feel great about yourself”, and bookshops are lined with books offering self-help remedies and strategies to improve self-confidence. While some remedies are helpful, they are often short-lived, as they do not go to the root of the issue. The Bible, in giving us everything we need for life and godliness, is not silent on the issue of self-esteem, but instead points out some faulty thinking that we tend to naturally gravitate toward. What makes up one’s self-esteem? The areas where people evaluate themselves to derive their self-image tend to fall into four categories. These include: Performance – This relates to what you do; whether it’s in the classroom, on the athletic field, at work, or at home as a parent with children. This category relates to abilities and how good we are at performing the various roles in our lives. Background – People naturally tend to use “pedigree” as an evaluation category for building self-esteem. This could be where you were born and the wealth of your family, which school or college you studied at, or even which sports team you support. This element gives a source of belonging or pride (or the opposite, depending on one’s evaluation). Acceptability – This is how we feel about our relationships with family members and friends, and concerns how lovable we feel. This is an area where one’s upbringing and past can have a direct impact [...]

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Six Tips for Overcoming Workplace Stress

2024-11-27T12:53:56+00:00June 5th, 2024|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Professional Development|

Many of us spend at least a third of our days at one and sometimes two jobs to help provide for ourselves and our families. That work might be behind a desk, outside at a worksite, among co-workers, or in solitude. Your attitude toward your work may vary from day to day, and range from loathing it to absolutely adoring it. Whatever we feel about it, work is a fixed reality in our lives, which is why workplace stress can be tough to deal with. Work, even the enjoyable kind, can be difficult, and it takes its toll on our bodies and minds. The ability to handle the effects of work, especially the stress of work, is an important part of any worker’s life and could help retain productivity and avoid the negative effects of chronic stress. Workplace stress: What it is, and what it does to you The word “stress” refers to how our bodies naturally respond physically and emotionally to something that is a perceived threat or challenge. Our stress response, also called the “fight or flight” response, helps our bodies and minds prepare for action when we are in a difficult or dangerous situation. The body’s fight or flight response is activated during a stressful event, triggering the release of hormones like adrenaline and cortisol which prepares us to either confront a threat or flee from it. The situations that can bring stress include facing financial pressures, relationship issues, experiencing significant life changes like getting married or moving, managing health problems, and work pressures such as deadlines. As you can imagine, cortisol and adrenaline affect organs such as your heart, and it can have other physiological effects. When you’re feeling stressed, you can experience digestive issues, difficulty sleeping, anxiety or being overwhelmed, exhaustion or fatigue, irritability [...]

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